What's your unique selling point?

We often think about and talk about what we're looking for in another person. But what do we have to offer? I don't know many people who's made a list of their unique "selling points" and why those values are important to them. So here it goes, this is me:

1. Honesty; you can always trust I'm honest with you. This to me is important, because if I can't be honest with myself, I can't be honest with others. Any relationship has to be based on honesty, as without it the relationship is not real.

2. Support; I'm probably the most supportive person I know. I'm your cheerleader in whatever it is that you want to pursue for you. I will try to help you the best I can to achieve your goals, dreams and visions. I value the mutual support in a relationship, as not only is co-creation SOOOOOOO much fun, it's allowing us to expand together and learn from one another.

3. I'm generous. I'm generous with all my resources, when I feel they're being appreciated and handled with respect.

4. I have a good sense of humour. I always, eventually, laugh at things that go "south". I love a good laugh, loads of fun and bantering!

5. If we are in a relationship, you have my undivided relationship attention. My faithfulness comes from a place of knowing my space. I was never good at dividing my attention between many people, and having done the whole "open relationship" -thing, monogamy has become my preference. I have so much to offer, and want to explore things on such a deep level of knowing, understanding and love, that when in a relationship, I'm simply not interested in exploring those things with others.

6. I have a killer body. (No explanation needed)


With tongue-in-cheek,
M

What do women REALLY want from a potential partner?

Then answer is simple; we all want different things. Not helpful, eh?

Ok, here's what turns me on and why;

1. A man who knows what he wants (and one that knows themselves); this is on the top of my list because unless both of you know yourself and what you want, the relationship is based on an unconscious level and understanding. Not that it can't work at that level; it can; once the level of unconsciousness of both people is in a vicinity of one anothers' and the values are at a similar level.

For me, if a man is unclear about what they want, it creates unnecessary currents underneath the relationship turning it to be about something other than what it's supposed to be about; joyful co-creation and individual and collective expansion.

2. Passion for who they are and what they do; a man who already experiences passion in their lives on a regular basis is more likely to be passionate about their relationship with themselves and as an extension with their significant other. Passion and appreciation tend to travel somewhat parallel journeys, at least in the human realm, and there's nothing more delicious than the feeling of pure appreciation for a moment, person or circumstance.

3. A man who takes responsibility for how they're feeling; nothing's more off-putting for me than a person who blames another for how they are feeling. Of course, we all do this to some extent, I'm no different, but at the end of it all, I take responsibility for my own feelings and how they affect the bigger picture.

What do other women want - hard to say sometimes, but it seems like there's someone for everyone and we need to look at our individual needs to find out what turns us on; putting very little emphasis on social and familial conditioning.

Ok, if I HAD to be more collective; I have noticed - especially after a conversation with a friend who highlighted this in a new way - that most women find a man who knows what he wants and is clear about it more appealing to a woman as a potential partner than a man who is not sure (which interestingly was my first preference).

Bottom line? Feel (intentionally, if you need to) for what turns you on and go with that feeling. Follow the feeling of turned-on-ness, not the one which is based on fears. Our fears tend to only make us focus on what we don't want; blurring the clarity of our joyful, expansive experience.

Whenever we do or don't do something out of fear of losing ourselves or compromising our values, we go for retraction, not expansion. The true expansion comes from connectedness, turned-on-ness and allowing yourself and others fully.

Remember; focus on what's important to you and this shall be your experience. Doubt it, and this will be your experience.

Whether we think we can or can't; either way we're right.

Much love and even more appreciation,
M