Then answer is simple; we all want different things. Not helpful, eh?
Ok, here's what turns me on and why;
1. A man who knows what he wants (and one that knows themselves); this is on the top of my list because unless both of you know yourself and what you want, the relationship is based on an unconscious level and understanding. Not that it can't work at that level; it can; once the level of unconsciousness of both people is in a vicinity of one anothers' and the values are at a similar level.
For me, if a man is unclear about what they want, it creates unnecessary currents underneath the relationship turning it to be about something other than what it's supposed to be about; joyful co-creation and individual and collective expansion.
2. Passion for who they are and what they do; a man who already experiences passion in their lives on a regular basis is more likely to be passionate about their relationship with themselves and as an extension with their significant other. Passion and appreciation tend to travel somewhat parallel journeys, at least in the human realm, and there's nothing more delicious than the feeling of pure appreciation for a moment, person or circumstance.
3. A man who takes responsibility for how they're feeling; nothing's more off-putting for me than a person who blames another for how they are feeling. Of course, we all do this to some extent, I'm no different, but at the end of it all, I take responsibility for my own feelings and how they affect the bigger picture.
What do other women want - hard to say sometimes, but it seems like there's someone for everyone and we need to look at our individual needs to find out what turns us on; putting very little emphasis on social and familial conditioning.
Ok, if I HAD to be more collective; I have noticed - especially after a conversation with a friend who highlighted this in a new way - that most women find a man who knows what he wants and is clear about it more appealing to a woman as a potential partner than a man who is not sure (which interestingly was my first preference).
Bottom line? Feel (intentionally, if you need to) for what turns you on and go with that feeling. Follow the feeling of turned-on-ness, not the one which is based on fears. Our fears tend to only make us focus on what we don't want; blurring the clarity of our joyful, expansive experience.
Whenever we do or don't do something out of fear of losing ourselves or compromising our values, we go for retraction, not expansion. The true expansion comes from connectedness, turned-on-ness and allowing yourself and others fully.
Remember; focus on what's important to you and this shall be your experience. Doubt it, and this will be your experience.
Whether we think we can or can't; either way we're right.
Much love and even more appreciation,
M
Ok, here's what turns me on and why;
1. A man who knows what he wants (and one that knows themselves); this is on the top of my list because unless both of you know yourself and what you want, the relationship is based on an unconscious level and understanding. Not that it can't work at that level; it can; once the level of unconsciousness of both people is in a vicinity of one anothers' and the values are at a similar level.
For me, if a man is unclear about what they want, it creates unnecessary currents underneath the relationship turning it to be about something other than what it's supposed to be about; joyful co-creation and individual and collective expansion.
2. Passion for who they are and what they do; a man who already experiences passion in their lives on a regular basis is more likely to be passionate about their relationship with themselves and as an extension with their significant other. Passion and appreciation tend to travel somewhat parallel journeys, at least in the human realm, and there's nothing more delicious than the feeling of pure appreciation for a moment, person or circumstance.
3. A man who takes responsibility for how they're feeling; nothing's more off-putting for me than a person who blames another for how they are feeling. Of course, we all do this to some extent, I'm no different, but at the end of it all, I take responsibility for my own feelings and how they affect the bigger picture.
What do other women want - hard to say sometimes, but it seems like there's someone for everyone and we need to look at our individual needs to find out what turns us on; putting very little emphasis on social and familial conditioning.
Ok, if I HAD to be more collective; I have noticed - especially after a conversation with a friend who highlighted this in a new way - that most women find a man who knows what he wants and is clear about it more appealing to a woman as a potential partner than a man who is not sure (which interestingly was my first preference).
Bottom line? Feel (intentionally, if you need to) for what turns you on and go with that feeling. Follow the feeling of turned-on-ness, not the one which is based on fears. Our fears tend to only make us focus on what we don't want; blurring the clarity of our joyful, expansive experience.
Whenever we do or don't do something out of fear of losing ourselves or compromising our values, we go for retraction, not expansion. The true expansion comes from connectedness, turned-on-ness and allowing yourself and others fully.
Remember; focus on what's important to you and this shall be your experience. Doubt it, and this will be your experience.
Whether we think we can or can't; either way we're right.
Much love and even more appreciation,
M
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