After my separation and a subsequently my divorce, I started seeing people again. It was a conscious decision; "here we go, let's make it happen" and "I'm ready for this!".
I wasn't ready at all.
Lesson number 5: Trying to meet people just because you "should" move on is not great, but it serves a purpose.
I mainly met people but they were immature, looking for an instant gratification or just way too unstable for me. They weren't able to hold an intellectual conversation (ie not interested) or I felt like they were stubbornly holding on to their belief systems in order not to be challenged to grow.
Boy, was it challenging for me to date people who were "unavailable". And then it hit me like a train; I realised that the only person "unavailable" was me. I was blocking my own ability to meet interesting people, because I was not aligned with it. I wasn't allowing it in.
The social pressure to move on (when you're of certain age) and settle down and have kids was interesting to observe. I have always been blessed to have friends to whom I can speak candidly about my experiences, who would allow me to go through every stage of my evolution; from dis-empowerment to anger to hopefulness to joy without questioning any of it. I, after having done one or two "shoulds", moved on from it; with the help of my friends; to letting go of all social pressures and just enjoying what was in front of me; this repertoire of new people, new experiences and the knowing that people can be met just about anywhere.
So actually, meeting people when you're divorced or single (same thing goes with business) is not about what you do or where you do it. It's about how aligned with yourself you are; when you are happy with yourself and open to meeting people, you'll become a magnet for others in the similar vibration in no time!
Get yourself open and the people will arrive! (Build it and they will come.)
Now, how do you meet your perfect partner?
Love and blessings,
M
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