As many of you and my nearest and dearest know, I'm an avid manifestor of; well; pretty much anything I want. Would it work with my perfect partner?
Many say: become the person you want to meet. I'm thinking; OK, but what about the complimenting qualities which would bind our experiences tighter together, while allowing even more understanding and personal development?
I've come to a few conclusions about myself: I want to pair up with a man who's passionate about what they do, and who know what they want (from their life).
The reason why these two things are very important to me is because it's important to me that my partner understands and appreciates my passion or "calling" to my work fully. The second point of knowing oneself, well; knowing self leads to understanding self better and as a by-product, understanding others at a deeper level.
I know we all want different things, and so I asked my 72-year old client about the secret to a happy marriage, and she responded:
Kindness - be there and be kind for another.
Laughter - have fun with one another.
Appreciation - be appreciative about your and your partner's values.
For me, I think she hit the nail in the head with her responses.
I've observed women recently, especially here in Ireland and it seems like we have forgotten to be kind, appreciative and humorous. We're so worried about equality while trying to keep the traditions going, that we forgot one of our own strengths, while adopting more masculine qualities. It's become a very confusing situation altogether here in Ireland, when it comes to relationships. The roles have changed drastically in the last few decades and the newly experienced "freedom" has certainly changed the face of our "everywoman".
Women here have become very assertive out of fear of losing control and dignity. They've become more independent (again, a fear-based trigger) and they demand more of themselves trying to establish and prove themselves in the workforce. No wonder guys have become afraid to ask girls out, to commit and show chivalry or any kind of vulnerability.
The song of a happy woman's laughter is often times overtaken by seriousness of life, once the kids come along and grown-ups forget about themselves and their own needs. And when we don't feel like our needs are being met, NOBODY is having ANY fun!
Women's natural appreciation for love and family tends to be there only for those special occasions; anniversaries, Christmases and graduation days, when the only time ever is right now. The more a man spends on a Valentine's flowers, the more he cares. Hmmm....
We often times don't realise that we have the power to change how we view things. Not only do we have the responsibility to ourselves to be happy and content in ourselves, we have the opportunity to show the future generations how it's done.
Often times, provided that there's a mutual willingness to find a resolution and common tune, any relationship can be turned around. Being divorced, I can say that it absolutely takes two to tango, but if your partner is not willing to evolve, don't worry. Just hold on to the picture of your own happiness and appreciation, bless your current partner with all his attributes, and your perfect partner will arrive to your life. It may be the one who you're already with, or a new partner will be attracted into your experience, and the transition will be inevitable.
Regardless of your current relation status and situation, follow the wisdom of the Divine Feminine: "Right now is the time when I appreciate your every quality, my perfect partner. Right now is when we can laugh, and fool around. Right now is the time to see my kindness reflected in you."
It's OK to be kind, happy and appreciative. It's OK to turn off the news for a month and see how much resource and love there is all around us. Switch off the negative expression of relationships in form of news, drama and sitcoms. Switch off your telly, open your heart and your mind will eventually follow.
My perfect partner, you're only an adjustment away. An adjustment of my own alignment.
Much love,
M
Many say: become the person you want to meet. I'm thinking; OK, but what about the complimenting qualities which would bind our experiences tighter together, while allowing even more understanding and personal development?
I've come to a few conclusions about myself: I want to pair up with a man who's passionate about what they do, and who know what they want (from their life).
The reason why these two things are very important to me is because it's important to me that my partner understands and appreciates my passion or "calling" to my work fully. The second point of knowing oneself, well; knowing self leads to understanding self better and as a by-product, understanding others at a deeper level.
I know we all want different things, and so I asked my 72-year old client about the secret to a happy marriage, and she responded:
Kindness - be there and be kind for another.
Laughter - have fun with one another.
Appreciation - be appreciative about your and your partner's values.
For me, I think she hit the nail in the head with her responses.
I've observed women recently, especially here in Ireland and it seems like we have forgotten to be kind, appreciative and humorous. We're so worried about equality while trying to keep the traditions going, that we forgot one of our own strengths, while adopting more masculine qualities. It's become a very confusing situation altogether here in Ireland, when it comes to relationships. The roles have changed drastically in the last few decades and the newly experienced "freedom" has certainly changed the face of our "everywoman".
Women here have become very assertive out of fear of losing control and dignity. They've become more independent (again, a fear-based trigger) and they demand more of themselves trying to establish and prove themselves in the workforce. No wonder guys have become afraid to ask girls out, to commit and show chivalry or any kind of vulnerability.
The song of a happy woman's laughter is often times overtaken by seriousness of life, once the kids come along and grown-ups forget about themselves and their own needs. And when we don't feel like our needs are being met, NOBODY is having ANY fun!
Women's natural appreciation for love and family tends to be there only for those special occasions; anniversaries, Christmases and graduation days, when the only time ever is right now. The more a man spends on a Valentine's flowers, the more he cares. Hmmm....
We often times don't realise that we have the power to change how we view things. Not only do we have the responsibility to ourselves to be happy and content in ourselves, we have the opportunity to show the future generations how it's done.
Often times, provided that there's a mutual willingness to find a resolution and common tune, any relationship can be turned around. Being divorced, I can say that it absolutely takes two to tango, but if your partner is not willing to evolve, don't worry. Just hold on to the picture of your own happiness and appreciation, bless your current partner with all his attributes, and your perfect partner will arrive to your life. It may be the one who you're already with, or a new partner will be attracted into your experience, and the transition will be inevitable.
Regardless of your current relation status and situation, follow the wisdom of the Divine Feminine: "Right now is the time when I appreciate your every quality, my perfect partner. Right now is when we can laugh, and fool around. Right now is the time to see my kindness reflected in you."
It's OK to be kind, happy and appreciative. It's OK to turn off the news for a month and see how much resource and love there is all around us. Switch off the negative expression of relationships in form of news, drama and sitcoms. Switch off your telly, open your heart and your mind will eventually follow.
My perfect partner, you're only an adjustment away. An adjustment of my own alignment.
Much love,
M
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