Our emotions are our guidance on whether or not we're moving towards our desires in life.
Why would I care how I feel?
Because unless you know how you feel you cannot know yourself, and what you want from this life experience. Knowing yourself is where most people have challenges in life. Not knowing who you are and how you feel can easily lead to addiction, escapism and co-dependency.
Addiction is often thought to be addiction to drugs, but something as simple as feeling a slump in the energy levels and reaching for that 3rd cup of coffee is as much an emotional/psychological/physiological addiction as taking cocaine. All addiction starts for an emotional reason and develops into a psychological/physiological addiction. To break any addiction is to resolve the emotional trigger.
Escapism, such as playing video games,or keeping oneself busy outside working hours is another effective way to avoid feeling feelings. If we, instead of going on holidays every year, would start feeling around our life and as a result started to methodically, or when inspired, move our lives towards what we wanted from it, we'd be a lot happier in the long run.
Co-dependency is another great way to not take responsibility of our lives. Blaming others is easier than looking at why we are reactive ourselves.
I noticed some time ago that I was intentionally making myself busy. When I started to examine the reason, I found a false premise in my belief system that said: if you're busy, and spend a lot of your time alone or with your animals, you can't be hurt by anyone. BOY was I wrong after getting that impact injury on my head from one of my horses!
I love the feeling of inspiration, love, joy, enthusiasm. But when I'm not well in myself, I don't pretend that I am. I'm either truly happy or I'm truly unhappy or anything in between. In any case, I'll always be honest about how I'm feeling. Only when I'm honest about how I'm feeling, I'm able to communicate with others from a transparent, honest point of view.
If I feel I need to have a glass of wine to relax, I have started to ask; why can't I relax without a substance? Is it just a habit, or does it rectify my feeling of dis-empowerment? Do I feel so out of control at the end of a day, that I need to drink to relax?
If I feel I need to have time off/holiday, I have started to ask myself why am I not pacing myself in everyday life. How did I end up so far from my own centre that I need to remove myself from the world I've created for myself? Am I not happy with my world?
If I feel I need to lash out on another being, I've started to ask; why should anyone else be held responsible for how I'm feeling? Can I go away, sort myself out, and then start communicating with my loved ones again from a more solid basis of wanting everyone to win?
I'd encourage everyone to not look outside of ourselves (material possession, relationships or money) to give us that sense of connection to feeling good. Rather, go for the questions inside. Give yourself a gift of sitting with yourself 10 minutes every day and your answers and feelings will come forth. Some people call this meditation, others call it quieting the mind. I just call it getting to know yourself.
Do us all a favour and don't bring the watered-down version of yourself to the buffet table of life. Rather, bring the one version that is full of joy, interesting conversation and true feelings.
Looking forward to getting to know you.
Much love
M
Why would I care how I feel?
Because unless you know how you feel you cannot know yourself, and what you want from this life experience. Knowing yourself is where most people have challenges in life. Not knowing who you are and how you feel can easily lead to addiction, escapism and co-dependency.
Addiction is often thought to be addiction to drugs, but something as simple as feeling a slump in the energy levels and reaching for that 3rd cup of coffee is as much an emotional/psychological/physiological addiction as taking cocaine. All addiction starts for an emotional reason and develops into a psychological/physiological addiction. To break any addiction is to resolve the emotional trigger.
Escapism, such as playing video games,or keeping oneself busy outside working hours is another effective way to avoid feeling feelings. If we, instead of going on holidays every year, would start feeling around our life and as a result started to methodically, or when inspired, move our lives towards what we wanted from it, we'd be a lot happier in the long run.
Co-dependency is another great way to not take responsibility of our lives. Blaming others is easier than looking at why we are reactive ourselves.
I noticed some time ago that I was intentionally making myself busy. When I started to examine the reason, I found a false premise in my belief system that said: if you're busy, and spend a lot of your time alone or with your animals, you can't be hurt by anyone. BOY was I wrong after getting that impact injury on my head from one of my horses!
I love the feeling of inspiration, love, joy, enthusiasm. But when I'm not well in myself, I don't pretend that I am. I'm either truly happy or I'm truly unhappy or anything in between. In any case, I'll always be honest about how I'm feeling. Only when I'm honest about how I'm feeling, I'm able to communicate with others from a transparent, honest point of view.
If I feel I need to have a glass of wine to relax, I have started to ask; why can't I relax without a substance? Is it just a habit, or does it rectify my feeling of dis-empowerment? Do I feel so out of control at the end of a day, that I need to drink to relax?
If I feel I need to have time off/holiday, I have started to ask myself why am I not pacing myself in everyday life. How did I end up so far from my own centre that I need to remove myself from the world I've created for myself? Am I not happy with my world?
If I feel I need to lash out on another being, I've started to ask; why should anyone else be held responsible for how I'm feeling? Can I go away, sort myself out, and then start communicating with my loved ones again from a more solid basis of wanting everyone to win?
I'd encourage everyone to not look outside of ourselves (material possession, relationships or money) to give us that sense of connection to feeling good. Rather, go for the questions inside. Give yourself a gift of sitting with yourself 10 minutes every day and your answers and feelings will come forth. Some people call this meditation, others call it quieting the mind. I just call it getting to know yourself.
Do us all a favour and don't bring the watered-down version of yourself to the buffet table of life. Rather, bring the one version that is full of joy, interesting conversation and true feelings.
Looking forward to getting to know you.
Much love
M
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