Last night, when I was out celebrating my beautiful friend Rosie's birthday, I had the pleasure to sit next to a man called John. He was Irish, single, in his (I'd say mid) thirties, he had lived in Australia for a year and he works with people with hearing difficulties. We got into a very interesting conversation about Ireland and how the elderly function in this Ireland, that is going through massive changes. Having lived abroad, he had become able to observe the Irish as a society from the outside in. I agreed with a lot of his sentiments.
The old school Ireland:
1. Work hard, and try to stay in the same company for your whole career.
2. Stay with the bank that your childhood account was established in, because loyalty might come in handy at some stage.
3. Marriage, kids, growing old together - NO MATTER WHAT.
All the above statements are fear based and when I asked John why is it, he said: " Nobody trusts anybody, and the ripple effects are still there, even now".
Before meeting Rosie and her friends I went shopping (for coffee). As I had some time to kill before they made it into town, I went to a bar and ordered myself a Cosmopolitan. I sat in a quiet corner of the hip, modern lounge and next to me sat two blokes having beer (they finished 3 in the time I had the one drink). I overheard their conversation.
The New School Ireland:
1. Bitch about your employer, look at changing jobs again.
2. Put the beers on a credit card which is almost maxed out and no money to pay anything but the minimum payments.
3. Call your girlfriend, because you have to and then make faces about her and how she nags and is such a useless cow. Next minute: "Oh look at the rack on that one!".
Holy cow! It seems like it's not just the economy that's in bits in this country! Seems like there's not much appreciation going about on anything; work, money, relationships.
I'm not saying that it's everyone's cup of tea to be married, or single, but for goodness' sake lads; grow a pair! The young men in this country are so afraid of commitment, because their mothers put them on pedestals from the beginning. The boys tend to be served by their mothers and boy, is it a rude awakening when they go out to the real world of different generation of changed, empowered women. All that is left is to whinge to your mate on a Saturday night about what a stupid bitch she is for wanting some respect.
Same goes with the girls. The suppression of the catholic church for so many years and the suppression of the divine feminine has created an explosion of man-wannabe career oriented women who are single in their 40's and spending all their money on designer clothes just so that they can feel better about themselves. They feel the pressure from their mother: why aren't you married yet -kind of comments and as a result has to buy more stuff. Although the catholic guilt is; as a result of the growing disbelief in the organised religion and abuse of the power in the past; being strangled out of the society and as a result from people's lives, the ripple effects of its iron-fist-like ruling are still there to be easily observed in the younger generations.
The people I met at Rosie's party last night were mostly Irish couples in their 30s and 40s. All of them had travelled or lived abroad. The women were independent, successful on their own right and very comfortable with themselves. They had a great rapport with their spouses and a bit of good old banter. The men were strong, not overpowering, but clearly and comfortably in themselves. There seemed to be a respect of one another, which I hadn't observed much before. Perhaps I've been in the wrong crowds.
What would I love to see? More of that, please!
I'm glad that the women in Ireland are feeling more empowered in themselves and are deciding on their own direction. But girls, remember that you don't have to lose your divine feminine in the process. By tapping into it, you tap into a surge of empowerment, like nothing you've ever felt before.
Guys, stop for a second and tap into that divinity within. You're worth everything, but rather than trying to get other people to prove it to you, how about you believe in yourselves, and the fact that you are perfect and enough just as you are. No macho BS is needed to be strong. Be the first one in your group to feel empowered and experience true love.
What do I think of all this, and the direction we're headed? As they'd say in Ireland: "Ah, sure. It'll be grand".
Much love
M
The old school Ireland:
1. Work hard, and try to stay in the same company for your whole career.
2. Stay with the bank that your childhood account was established in, because loyalty might come in handy at some stage.
3. Marriage, kids, growing old together - NO MATTER WHAT.
All the above statements are fear based and when I asked John why is it, he said: " Nobody trusts anybody, and the ripple effects are still there, even now".
Before meeting Rosie and her friends I went shopping (for coffee). As I had some time to kill before they made it into town, I went to a bar and ordered myself a Cosmopolitan. I sat in a quiet corner of the hip, modern lounge and next to me sat two blokes having beer (they finished 3 in the time I had the one drink). I overheard their conversation.
The New School Ireland:
1. Bitch about your employer, look at changing jobs again.
2. Put the beers on a credit card which is almost maxed out and no money to pay anything but the minimum payments.
3. Call your girlfriend, because you have to and then make faces about her and how she nags and is such a useless cow. Next minute: "Oh look at the rack on that one!".
Holy cow! It seems like it's not just the economy that's in bits in this country! Seems like there's not much appreciation going about on anything; work, money, relationships.
I'm not saying that it's everyone's cup of tea to be married, or single, but for goodness' sake lads; grow a pair! The young men in this country are so afraid of commitment, because their mothers put them on pedestals from the beginning. The boys tend to be served by their mothers and boy, is it a rude awakening when they go out to the real world of different generation of changed, empowered women. All that is left is to whinge to your mate on a Saturday night about what a stupid bitch she is for wanting some respect.
Same goes with the girls. The suppression of the catholic church for so many years and the suppression of the divine feminine has created an explosion of man-wannabe career oriented women who are single in their 40's and spending all their money on designer clothes just so that they can feel better about themselves. They feel the pressure from their mother: why aren't you married yet -kind of comments and as a result has to buy more stuff. Although the catholic guilt is; as a result of the growing disbelief in the organised religion and abuse of the power in the past; being strangled out of the society and as a result from people's lives, the ripple effects of its iron-fist-like ruling are still there to be easily observed in the younger generations.
The people I met at Rosie's party last night were mostly Irish couples in their 30s and 40s. All of them had travelled or lived abroad. The women were independent, successful on their own right and very comfortable with themselves. They had a great rapport with their spouses and a bit of good old banter. The men were strong, not overpowering, but clearly and comfortably in themselves. There seemed to be a respect of one another, which I hadn't observed much before. Perhaps I've been in the wrong crowds.
What would I love to see? More of that, please!
I'm glad that the women in Ireland are feeling more empowered in themselves and are deciding on their own direction. But girls, remember that you don't have to lose your divine feminine in the process. By tapping into it, you tap into a surge of empowerment, like nothing you've ever felt before.
Guys, stop for a second and tap into that divinity within. You're worth everything, but rather than trying to get other people to prove it to you, how about you believe in yourselves, and the fact that you are perfect and enough just as you are. No macho BS is needed to be strong. Be the first one in your group to feel empowered and experience true love.
What do I think of all this, and the direction we're headed? As they'd say in Ireland: "Ah, sure. It'll be grand".
Much love
M
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