Playing second base is an interesting concept. I have been asked to do so or maybe I was expected to, in the name of self exploration.
I've heard it all; "it's not the same that I look at porn"; "these people are just exhibitionists and they do the posing because they want to".
Putting aside the fact that anyone who feels the need to exhibit themselves are doing it because of low self esteem (wanting to feel good about themselves and to get attention) and should be felt sorry for; and the fact that most of the "industry" is filled with people being put into boxes and be objectified, anyone who needs a visual stimulus to get going is missing a vital component in their relationship with themselves. In short, they're disconnected.
When did we ever stop being connected to ourselves? I hear porn-watching people giving out about work-a-holism, when they think there's nothing wrong with relieving self over pictures of some random "nobodies" on line. Talk about disconnect. Don't get me wrong, we're all into something. It's up to each individual to decide which game they're comfortable playing.
The bottom line is that when you need to be stimulated by pictures to feel connected to yourself through arousal, you might as well be addicted to a substance. It's a quick fix, it makes you feel good, it usually means nothing anyway, and it may ruin your close relationships. Sounds an awful like any addiction. In other words, it's not just your partner that is asked to play second base, you're in the losing team yourself.
People connected to themselves are tuned in, tapped in and turned on by LIFE. These are the people who turn me on (and frankly most other women, although they would never say it because they're afraid of losing their partner).
Are you turned on by life?
Much love
M
I've heard it all; "it's not the same that I look at porn"; "these people are just exhibitionists and they do the posing because they want to".
Putting aside the fact that anyone who feels the need to exhibit themselves are doing it because of low self esteem (wanting to feel good about themselves and to get attention) and should be felt sorry for; and the fact that most of the "industry" is filled with people being put into boxes and be objectified, anyone who needs a visual stimulus to get going is missing a vital component in their relationship with themselves. In short, they're disconnected.
When did we ever stop being connected to ourselves? I hear porn-watching people giving out about work-a-holism, when they think there's nothing wrong with relieving self over pictures of some random "nobodies" on line. Talk about disconnect. Don't get me wrong, we're all into something. It's up to each individual to decide which game they're comfortable playing.
The bottom line is that when you need to be stimulated by pictures to feel connected to yourself through arousal, you might as well be addicted to a substance. It's a quick fix, it makes you feel good, it usually means nothing anyway, and it may ruin your close relationships. Sounds an awful like any addiction. In other words, it's not just your partner that is asked to play second base, you're in the losing team yourself.
People connected to themselves are tuned in, tapped in and turned on by LIFE. These are the people who turn me on (and frankly most other women, although they would never say it because they're afraid of losing their partner).
Are you turned on by life?
Much love
M
Very nicely said. My mom had the cable guy over helping to set up the new flat screen TV she and dad bought a couple years ago. The tech asked her is she wanted the adult stations. She was totally shocked! He said all the neighbors have it, you never would think it, but they do. She indignantly said she and father never used pornography in all their almost fifty year marriage. They thought the body was beautiful enough as it is. Very ahead of their time, my folks. Very ahead of their time!
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